December 24, 2008, 12:24 pm - James Farrer
Alexander Zethan Farrer was born Christmas Eve at 6:58am. He weighs 8 lbs 6 oz and is 21 inches long. Both Alex and Shauna are doing great!
Alexander Zethan Farrer was born Christmas Eve at 6:58am. He weighs 8 lbs 6 oz and is 21 inches long. Both Alex and Shauna are doing great!
We took pictures of the kids today. Great Grandparents sent nice clothes and we've been wanting them so it worked out to be a good time to do it. We found a nice spot and then struggled to get Abby and William to sit still and smile at the same time. We took a lot of pictures. In the end it took some bribing and pleading but they both smiled and I think we got something good enough to work with. Overall I can't complain. It took some working and by the end they were a little tired but it didn't take too long and it was a pretty good experience.
Now to think, we're planning on taking family portraits after the new one comes along...
We're trying to teach WIlliam to sleep on the lower bunk bed since number 3 is almost here. It works out anyway since he can climb out of his crib anyway. But, he usually rolls out of bed between 3 and 4 am. Then I go rock him and put him in his crib to finish the night. I really have every intention of getting a bed-rail thing that keeps him from falling out. But, last night when I was rocking William, the pregnant belly starting punching William with a vengence. Apparantly number 3 didn't like being woken up and squished. I hadn't really noticed because he's the busiest little bundle of pregnant belly I've had yet and I'm used to it. But last night, William got tired of it and suddenly sat up and glared at my stomach. I totally had to laugh. Sibling rivalry or something like that starts young.
We were running errands yesterday and we were near our old neighborhood, so I told the kids we were going to stop by and see a friend and see if she was home. It turned out she wasn't, so we went sploring as Abby said it. We looked at the new houses that were up, and looked around the neighborhood and then I was done, but she wanted to do more sploring. So we went up and down every little side street getting out of the neighborhood. Finally, from the back I hear, ok mommy, when I say 'let's get out of here, then we need to go to the store.' Ok. So another street or two and she was having so much fun until she pointed one way and said it was time to get to the store soon. I told her the store was the other way and she was convinced we were lost. So, then the magic words came, "Ok mommy, let's get out of here." OK. So, I started towards the store and she was still lost and told me I was going the wrong way. Who's driving anyway. I told her no, and started pointing out landmarks we see on a weekly basis, and then she felt better.
William has learned to unzip his pajama's. He doesn't know how to zip them up though. He unzips to his waist and then runs around like that. It reminds me of those men who have a button or two undone, and there's chest hair peeking out.Then to top it off, he likes to put toys in and out of the pajamas which always get stuck in his feet and he has to dig them out. The other night he dropped a globe from Abby's doll house in and was searching for it. James laughing started singing, "He's got the whole world in his pants, he's got the whole wide world, in his pants..." Oh the funnies when trying to get ready for bed.
I love how kids keep you hopping (most of the time). Sometimes I will take a shower while William is sleeping and Abby is watching cartoon or playing on the computer. Today she knocked and asked if she could shower too. Who is going to turn that down? I had an opportunity when I didn't have to fight her to take a bath. I said yes. So she hopped in, I finished shaving and got her cleaned up. While I'm turned around,
Abby pops up and says, "Mom, you have a big botttom!"
Thinking to myself, Thanks a lot!. Out loud, "I know honey, I hope it disappears when the baby is born."
Then I turn around and almost smack her with my pregnant belly.
"Mom, You have a big belly too!"
Thinking to myself, Ya think! Out loud "I know honey, that should disappear when the baby is born too."
I hop out of the tub to go get dressed while Abby finishes soaking in the shower. From my room I can hear...
In a sing-song voice "Big butt, big belly, big butt, big belly..."
In a child that would be a few years older, they would be teasing me. But she was just singing in the shower. I'm not sure how I feel about that. I hope she doesn't bring it up again. And on second thought, I think I'll make sure to shower on my own for awhile. It might be worth the fight to clean her up later. :D
Abby has just turned 4, and it's amazing the difference in attitude between 3 and 4. Most of the temper tantrums have ceased and I can explain things to her and she helps me all the time. But, every once in awhile we have a day where I swear she's reverted back. The last two days have been major temper tantrum days. Due mostly to her little brother who turns on the light at night and keeps her up. She needs a lot more sleep at night than he does and she hasn't been getting it. It shows. Which reminded me of my favorite temper tantrum about 5 weeks ago. She was out playing with the neighbors and I warned her that she had about 15 minutes before we had to go change for dance. It's been cooler with the fall weather and the kids weren't used to the change yet. They all wanted to set up the slip-n-slide. I told her she could, but that she didn't have time to change into her swimsuit. I told her to just get her clothes wet and then we would change into dance clothes. Well, that didn't fly apparantly. She asked 2-3 more times to change and I kept saying no, not only because of the time restraint but because William was taking a nap in that room, and he had been out of control. Finally, while I'm talking to a the neighbor kids mommy, Abby disappeared. I noticed after a few minutes and yelled for her and she didn't appear. I yelled again, no show. So I went to investigate. To my surprise (I know, you all aren't surprised) she was butt-naked and hiding behind a playhouse so I couldn't see her. I asked her to put her clothes on and go inside. It was time to change anyway. But it was two major blows. She didn't want her clothes on and she didn't want to go inside. She lost it, big time. So, I started to put her clothes on for her. I managed to get her underwear most of the way up, but I couldn't bend all the way down to her, and she was hysterical. She suddenly jumped up and started running (there's no way I was even going to try to catch her at 6 months pregnant). But the funniest part was that Abby never stopped to finish pulling up her underwear. She just made a mad naked dash around the house. I was laughing so hard I just let her run, I figured she would come back. And she did emerge on the other side of the house and had somehow magically managed to pull her underwear all the way up. So, I don't know how much of the neighborhood she flashed before she ended up on the swingset, still hysterical. But, it took me a few minutes to stop laughing so that I could finish disciplining. Hence the name, the naked bum run. Must have felt nice in that nice cool fall air!
Ok, there is one more thing for the day. I mentioned that I only have 6-7 weeks left of pregnancy and we can't decide what to name this kid. There are names we like, but nothing that is like za-zing. So, we're taking a poll. Here are the names we like, please tell us which ones you like and what order we should use them. There are no guarantee that we will use any given suggestion, but it would be fun to have some feedback. The only name that I feel like I should preface is Zethan. We found it in the Old Testament, he's one of Benjamin's grandsons and we like that it is different and similar from Ethan, but we're not sure about it as a first name.
First name options:
Middle Name Options:
Or, If you have any other recommendations, we're taking suggestions. Thanks Everyone!!!!!
So, I spent part of August, and all of September and October canning. That is where I disappeared to. I didn't clean house, I didn't cook, I just took care of kids (kinda) and did a ton of canning. We have Apricot Pie filling, whole tomatoes, diced tomatoes, pears, peaches, apple pie filling, a TON of jelly and jam, a Ton of Applesause, and salsa. I made it that whole time without fruit flies. It was amazing and I was counting myself lucky until the very last week of October. Every day since then there are 4-6 flies around my house and they are driving me crazy!!! Mostly because every single day I kill 4-6 and the very next day there are 4-6 more. So I came up with a hypothesis. I think they are X-Flies. Just like certain X-Men who have regenerating powers, I'm totally convinced that these little stinkers can survive any kind of death and come back to haunt me. I'm going to find their weakness, one of these days.
In other news, here are the rest of the pregnancy pics that a few have requested.
Ok, starting to feel crappy. Can anyone tell? This is desperate mommy at the end of the day with no makeup. This is a good day because I got a shower and I got dressed. I think church is the only place I wear makeup at this point. I just don't care. I want to sleep. This is 7 months and I feel like a freight liner. Now I'm down to 6-7 weeks or so. I can't wait for this to end. I'd rather be sleep deprived with a newborn everytime. At least I can breathe and bend over. Although, I do have to admit it's cool to feel the baby move.
I usually make something for each kid. This little boy is getting my first attempt at a quilt. This is the top, though my mom picked up the finished product from the quilters last week and says it is amazing. So, when I get it back I'll post that pic, but for now, here is the topper.
Alright, I think I got most of my thoughts out. It's time to sleep.
My cute family!
So, in James blog, he already posted about his trip to Gillette, Wy. He and my dad both have BMW motorcycles and they went to a BMW motorcycle rally and had their boy fun. The kids and I went to Cheyenne and spent time with my grandparents and my mom and sister. My highlight was being able to go to Cheyenne Frontier Days...Finally. I always used to go as a child, but I haven't been in 10 years or more. So, i took my kids.
James, Mark (my dads friend), and my dad.They were in 4 states in 4 days. They would go on a different ride everyday. They drove into WY, then visited the Black Hills, Mount Rushmore, Custers Last Stand, and a few other places. I'm glad they had fun.
Their campsite in Gillette. My dad's bike is on the left, and James on the right.
The kids and I saw a lot of horses...and cowboys....and more horses
A lot of grandparents, Abby is just starting to figure out which grandmas are which.
And we did a lot of driving! But we made it and it was fun. The only pictures I don't have are from the Taylor Swift and Rascal Flatts concert my sister and I went to. That was my fun!
And last but not least, a pregnant picture. This is 4 months.
So, I really just don't get around to keeping my blog updated. James is awesome at it. It's a kind of stress relief for him. My kind of stress relief is either talking to someone on the phone or scrapbooking or sewing or something. So, sorry to all those who even check to see if I've updated anything. It's not because I don't ever log in, it's because I find it so much more entertaining to chec k everyone elses blog, and by the time I'm done the house is in shambles and I have to go separate the kids before a serious injury occurs. So, here are a few pictures from the last couple of months.
In June we went to see Grandma and Grandpa Rucker in Colorado. That's where we cut William's hair and had his first birthday party (one of 3).
One of my favorite things to do at home is watch the sky, it's always amazing!
William learned how to get into the tub by himself. It was nice of him to make sure his clothes and shoes got washed.
Will got 250 of those Chuck-E-Cheese ball pen balls for his birthday. The kids both loved it.
Abby at the Denver Zoo.
So, there's our excitement in June. I'm just going to do brief updates for the next couple of months worth of stuff.
I find it somewhat entertaining when people ask "What do you do?" I think most of the time when people ask questions like this they don't really want to know the answer. When I was living in the Baltics an interesting difference between american culture and eastern european culture became very apparent. When americans ask you how you're doing they seriously expect you to say good, fine, or OK. In other words, an american typically does not really care how you're doing they're just using a twisted salutation and maybe trying to make small talk. In the Baltics, if you ask someone how they're doing, you better be ready for the real answer. Not just good or bad, but the 15 minute, here's what's really a pain in the back kind of answer. Add the gospel to that and it tended to be a little more upbeat because hey, it makes people happier, but you still should be expecting an honest answer. I think me going to the Baltics was a good fit because I am just terrible at small talk and I do better when I can actually talk to someone about what's real, not about what they happen to have on for a facade.
Which brings me back to the question of "What do you do?" I asked someone the other day and he somewhat non-interestingly replied "Oh, I'm in the Air Force." Ok, and...? I've never been in the Air Force, but I know there's a lot more to it than just being in the Air Force. After prodding a little about it he said he works in the health care administration office. Now that's cool. Who would have thought about someone doing that as part of the Air Force. Having considered joining the Air Force on numerous occasions and wondering what some of the many varied opportunities that must exist there might be this had even more interest to me. I also need to point out that this situation is by no means unique. I like to know what people do. I am a very curious person; I want to know how and why things work the way they do.
I'm sure that some of this stems from my inability to succinctly explain what it is that I do. By title and job description I am a Technical Training Program Coordinator. That could take a number of different directions based on the current need for technical training. However it rarely seems like I do anything that actually fits into that title. in reality I often feel that IT Guru would be a better fit. And while I think it is somewhat appropriate and just cool to be an IT Guru, it probably is not the most professional job title in the world.
So am I crazy? Am I weird? Undoubtedly I am. But at the same time. I can do a lot, I like doing a lot. And if I don't have variety and hopefully a bit of challenge in what I'm doing, I'm bored. Which makes what I am currently doing a pretty good job fit. So what do I do? I program a little and work with my employees to design some really cool stuff, that will likely never be seen by the vast majority of the population because it's for internal tools. I am nevertheless excited about that part of my job. I do lot's of participating in project meetings and other discussions where I voice my opinion about how I think things should be to make them better. Tunnel vision is an interesting phenomenom that maybe someday I'll explore a little more, though hopefully not too in depth from personal participation. I value a broad perspective on things. In the words of one of my co-workers, I'm the one that they give the stuff to do when they really want it done right. I do not in any way think I know everything, nor will I ever. I do however think I keep an open mind and can see things from a perspective that can help get things done. For example, some reports had been worked on my multiple people and I was finally assigned and was able to get people to work things out because I took the time to understand the context and data. Too few people do this from my limited experience.
And finally, contrary to popular belief (or not really) I do on occasion do some training. It has most often been informal training, but I have provided a little bit of class room instruction and am working on putting some more together. I enjoy teaching. I really enjoy helping other people to understand something.
So now that I've explained a little bit about what I do and how I feel about it. What do you do? Really, I'm interested.
I was talking to my mom tonight and we were comparing William's doing laps at the park tonight to her building obstacle courses as a kid and my building forts, legos, websites, etc. William has consistently been doing laps around various objects in the house or whereever we may be and refining his ability to traverse the given path. For example the other night he we climbing over the end of his bed, then over my legs to drop down to the floor then back around the end of the bed. It was pretty tough for him at first and I had to help quite a bit, but after 4 or 5 times through he figured out how to shift his weight so he could get over the bars on his own and after 10-15 times he was just fast and smooth. My mom would build an obstacle course in the back yard growing up and go over it many times to see how fast they could make it through. I am typically more interested in building or creating something. I often find myself in the evenings twiddling my thumbs and thinking "what can I build?" Usually I don't have the resources, ideas, tools, etc. to accomplish too much but the general idea is there. I create things and build stuff. That's what gives me satisfaction and a sense of fulfillment. That probably explains a great deal of why this website exists in the form that it does. Sure there are other things that do exactly what this does and more, but I wanted to know exactly what it was doing, make it do just what I wanted it to do, and get the experience of knowing how to do it.
So speaking of building and creating, I have a few things that have been on my mind to work on for the website. I think I'll go look into them.
William can officially climb everywhere in the apartment. He has climbed onto the window sill in the front room. Can climb onto the stools in the kitchen and then onto the counter. He has climbed onto his dresser and then into his crib (The only place we haven't seen him climb out of so far). One of the most recent developments is his ability to climb onto the top bunk in his and Abby's room. A little scary? Yes, but he does surprisingly well with it all, so I'm not too worried.
Here is the quilt that Shauna has been working on, it's awesome!
It's her first and I think it's pretty good.
I finally got all of the photos moved over and enough functionality that I was ready to switch over. So here you are. If you find that there is something that you don't see on this site but was on the old site (there are a couple of small items) then you can go to old.jamesandshauna.com and everything except the photos will still be there. I am running out of space so I had to move the photos instead of copying them over. One of these days I'll get a larger hard drive and then it won't be of much concern. As it is, there are currently 6719 photos and videos on www.jamesandshauna.com.
If you use the RSS feed for the site, you'll need to resubscribe to the new RSS feed as it has changed. To my knowledge no one else in the world uses it except me (to make sure that it's working correctly) but I think they are incredibly helpful and dislike sites that do not have them so I made one. If you have no idea what I'm talking about then I strongly suggest to take a look at this post about RSS feeds and then try out Google Reader.
Thanks for reading or at least letting me believe that someone other than myself reads this and looks at the pictures.
I love my wife and am so thankful that she is so supportive and loving even when we've all had a bad day.
Thank you Shauna!
So at first we thought William was a normally busy one year old. We now know better. Shauna took him to a Relief Society activity where they did crafts with kids and the overarching comment was "Whoa, he's busy!". Yes folks in the last week he has:
So there are William's highlights for the week.
Abby has been testing her limits and demanding a lot of attention, but she is a sweet little girl. She is looking more grown up every day.
Baby #3 is halfway here, Shauna has been pointing out every very pregnant woman and saying "I wish I was that big so I was that close to being done". I think she's ready to be herself again without a bump or child needing her constantly.
With an average of about 365 miles a day the BMW rally turned out to
be a really fun experience. We rode through some really pretty country
and some really plain country. The Black Hills in South Dakota takes
the cake for my favorite riding of the trip. There are beautiful
canyons with winding roads through the bottom that are very nice.
There was hardly any traffic and the temperature was really quite
pleasant for most of the trip. It got a little toasty in the
afternoons, but while we were riding it was generally cool.
So the trip went something like this:
All in all it was a much needed change of pace. Hopefully I can get the pictures posted soon.
It's the night before leaving for the big BMW rally and I'm excited enough that my stomach has had a small butterfly all day. All I have left is a quick trip to the store for goodies and supplies, pack up the clothes, try to sleep, and hit the road in the morning.
So I have often tried to explain RSS feeds and convince people of the power of them, but I don't think many people have caught the vision. So here is one more stab at it. I found a great video explanation of RSS feeds and how to use them that I think everyone that reads blogs or news sites regularly should watch. I am a big fan of Google Reader. I can follow many different blogs, several photography sites, and other geeky stuff of my choosing without having to go out and check all of those sites.
CHECK IT OUT HERE: http://www.commoncraft.com/rss_plain_english
Today Abby gave her first talk. It was really cute. When she found out that it was on temples she got really excited and decided that she wanted to sing "The Temple Song" (I love to see the temple). So she did. It took a little prompting once she got up there but she did a fantastic job. She said/sang her song and said her lines and was excited as can be both before and after. Apparently as soon as she got into the room she was itching to go up to the front to do it.
She is growing up so fast. She has been picking up on some of the most interesting little tid bits from various places. For example we watched Mr. Magoriums Wonder Emporium the other day and afterwards she was talking about a lemur (which made a 30 second debut in the film). There have been several other random comments that she has made that just left us speechless or struggling to keep the laughter from overcoming us.
William is starting to repeat various sounds and actions. Tonight after we all sang Popcorn Popping on the Apricot Tree William was bouncing and saying pop, pop, pop... Pretty cute.
On another note, here is a funny moment with William from our trip to Colorado. The tub there isn't nearly as tall as ours and William went right up to it with clothes on and all and climbed right in.
I posted a bunch more pictures not too long ago too from William's birthday and our vacation to Colorado. The pictures are here.
I know I do. It seems like more and more I go to work, come home, spend a little time with Shauna and the kids, then go to sleep. Next day it starts over. I do interact with people at work and even have a few good conversations here and there, but I still like I'm turning into a hermit. This was thrown into stark relief tonight when we went to a young married folk activity tonight. It turned out to be a really fun event. One of the best (probably the best) ward activity that I've attended in this ward. There were people I could relate to and talk to and it was just a nice evening. Considering I rarely talk to anyone outside of the people I regularly see at work and home, It was a nice change to have a few good conversations.
So anyways, I think I am becoming a walking dichotomy. I feel like I am becoming a hermit and I am gradually becoming more ok with it. I also crave social interaction on a fairly regular basis. Maybe I'm becoming more comfortable with doing some things by myself. Take riding for example. In the past I have very much wanted someone to ride with. I wouldn't mind having someone to ride with but I also enjoyed going for a 100+ mile ride yesterday on my own.
I think one of the biggest reasons for this dichotomy is that I don't really have any close friends around. Jason is in Idaho and I haven't gotten too close to that many other people and most of those that I have gotten close to have moved away. I'm not trying to keep to myself, but I'm not the best at getting out either. Go figure.
Usually I have a ton to tell about Abby, but this is for William. He just doesn't talk as often. But, we've made a break-through in communication in the last 2 weeks or so. One day I gave Will a hug and he kissed me back. A day or two later I was telling James about it and he looked at William and said I love you. William promptly planted a cute baby kiss on his cheek! You know the kind, the infant, open-mouthed, gooey, slobbery kinds of kisses! So Cute! So it's nice to know that he understands what we're saying to him.
For all intents and purposes Abby is now potty trained and I'm looking into dance classes for her. I'm trying to find a combo class where they go once a week and learn a little bit of ballet, jazz, tap, and gymnastics. Over time, they naturally figure out which ones of those that they prefer. I think it would be awesome.
On other fronts, James got a camera for graduation last year. It's a Nikon Digital SLR and it's awesome. So, for his birthday he got the flash and some people at his work asked if he would do their engagement pictures. They liked it so much they paid him. It's official, he's a professional. And they were cute pics.
As for me, I was talking to a friend back home (ok, maybe griping just a little), and she says "why don't you do a home-based business?" And that's when I told her that in all theory I did, I just didn't do my Mary Kay stuff on a large scale. So, I decided to go to a conference, and I got all motivated again and I started working again. I actually have classes booked, and I'm making money this time around. My goal, to 1) provide some funds for myself to have some fun just because (jewelry, being able to go on vacations, etc), 2) get a few things we need around the house (furniture, carpet cleaner...), 3) someday earn a car, 4) but most importantly to get our school debt paid off so that we can get a house. Realistically, I think this will take 3-4 years considering a starter house in this area is ridiculously expensive. My parents custom built their dream house 8 years ago with 1/2 acre of land for a WHOLE lot LESS than what we are looking at. Oh well. But, it's do-able if I can finish paying off the school loans. So here's to
being busy, having fun, and reaching goals. Thanks to Hales, James, and those who have been so supportive of my dreams. Sometimes I forget to dream, and it's been nice to do that again.
I have been redoing the file structure that photos are stored in to make it more scalable in the future.
I have tried to test everything to make sure that it works but it's likely that I missed something. If you find any errors where something doesn't seem to work correctly, then please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Dear Senator Dayton,
While I agree that child safety is important and that child restraints and booster seats can generally make a car a safer environment I oppose this bill because I strongly believe it takes the law too far in requiring that they be used. I believe that it is a parents right to determine what is best for their children for better or worse.
Education is good. I believe that people generally make the best and most logical decision when accurate information is presented to them. I think educating on this topic is important and that people will choose to be as safe as reasonably possible. But I believe that by requiring these changes by law is extreme. All but the final statistic that were presented in the House in support of this bill did not accurately reflect whether or not the deaths and injuries would have been changed by a booster seat. It was shown that booster seats are safer, but the numbers given were misleading.
I believe that given some circumstance I may choose to have my child not sit in a child restraint while riding in the car. I feel it is unjust to make me break the law in acting on this decision. An example of this might be regarding the vehicles that I currently own. I have a small family car and a pickup truck. On rare occasions such as when the car is in use somewhere else or when it is not in working order I have to take the kids in the truck. There is no realistic way for me to have both my children in child restraints and still operate the vehicle. Given the way the seatbelts are arranged in my truck I think that a booster seat would not be reasonably necessary anyways.
Should another child join my family there is not room in the car to fit three child restraints. I could place my oldest child in a regular seat belt; assuming we wait just long enough to have a third child my oldest will likely be 5 years old when that happens, barely meeting the current law. While I am working to be financially prepared to purchase a larger vehicle when that time comes, I would be unreasonably forced to break the law to take my family anywhere if circumstances did not allow the purchase of a larger vehicle.
I ride a motorcycle. I know as well as the next person what the risks of riding a motorcycle are. I have done research to find what information exists about motorcycle injury and death statistics. While the danger is higher on a motorcycle than in a car, I have made the decision to still ride one. I wear a helmet, jacket, gloves, long pants, and protective boots whenever I ride. By driving down the road you can see that this is more than almost all riders wear and by my actions you can see I'm more safety minded than most. By progressively increasing motorcycle and seatbelt safety laws the same way child restraint laws are being adjusted it is foreseeable that motorcycles would be made illegal because there are no safety belts. Again, too extreme.
Having children of my own I have read the law on what is required for child restraints. I think the law is already borderline on being excessively restrictive. That's not to say I do not always have my children in car seats. But I am educated and feel I can make the decision for myself and for my family.
This country is great because of the freedom to choose and to act as one determines is best. I would support a measure to educate on this topic, but not to restrict by law. I oppose this bill because it excessively restricts my freedom.
Thank you for your time,
James and Shauna Farrer
Photos for the last 2 years have been added.
Highlights from the Almina Slaydon pics